Almost every marital relationship endure husband-wife’s white noise which is quite unavoidable. Not all husbands tend to listen their wife as they get irritated and frustrated easily on your statements which they find baseless usually. Constant nagging could be much worse and frustrating, leading to serious conflicts. So, instead of constant nagging, if you can make your spouse a good listener, you don’t have to walk behind him being a nagger. So the best way is to treat your husband as you treat your kids as when you want him to listen you. Here are the ways to make your husband listen to you.
1. Consider your approach
Think and analyse what you are saying and how you are saying. Think about the timing, is it the perfect time, perfect place? Is the person in right mood? Go with ease and don’t complicate things to make him understand and listen to you.
2. Start conversation when he is attentive
It varies from person to person. Some people stay attentive in the morning, some in the evening and some at night. So, choose the best time when he is more attentive and approach him.
3. Try not to give him stress
No matter how much your matter is important try not to give him stress. Stress could make things worse and could create a bridge between you and your spouse that will create a shield for your conversation which will never be understood by your husband and hence he will not listen to you.
4. First be a good listener
To make your husband listen to you have to listen to him first. Listen with interest what he says, shares and lets you know about his feelings, his experiences, his all day routine. When you will patiently listen him, he will definitely listen you carefully.
5. Let him know what you expect
If you’ll not say, he will never know it. So, let him know what we want, what you expect and what you want him to know. This will make things crystal clear and he might start listen to you more attentively.
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6. Control your emotions
Don’t be too loud, or don’t lose your temper as aggression ruins everything. Your man will lose his temper too and will never to try listen what you saying even if you’re right or you have got a point. So, get your emotions in control and be smooth with your approach.
7. Provide positive reinforcement
Nice way to make your husband listen to you is offering him positive surprises or some good rewards only if he listens to you. Let him know that he will be rewarded or will be surprised with a gift only after listening to you attentively. Grab his attention with positive rewards and reinforcement.
8. Get the right place and time
Wait till the perfect time comes and choose a perfect place to start your conversation. Your suitable environment and perfect timing will make him more inclined towards your words and conversation. Perfect time could be while sharing your morning coffee, or a short evening walk or at night on bed and perfect place which is peaceful and devoid of distractions.
9. Be gentle with your words
Use words that would be ear pleasing and frame them with nice meaningful morale. Be gentle and smooth to get his attention and make him listen to you without any distraction. Make proper eye contact to keep him connected with what you saying.
10. Give more examples
Whatever point you make or whatever matter it is frame your words with nice and practical examples, so that he will find logic and will stay attentive and try to listen you more. Because men always think practically, so give them some practical and logical examples to prove your point or keep your conversation on the valid track which is the best way to make your husband listen to you.