Ways To Reveal Your Past To Your Spouse

Past memories make everyone feel nostalgic only when those memories are good and beautiful ones. But regretful and miserable memories are always the part of our weaknesses. Past is a good place to visit but not to live in is a true fact. But accepting your past for a better present and future is equally important. Relationships are very fragile and needs the strongest base to rest on. Hence sharing your bitter past, miserable and ugly secrets with your partner for better and strong relationship is good but not always. If you think that sharing every details of your past would make your spouse clear heart and mind to rely on you forever then I think this is not that much correct. Some details and secrets are worthy to be hidden for the sake of peace and happiness. And when your past has nothing to do with your present then it’s good to keep it in an air tight box. But those people who still want to share every secret with their spouse to avoid future conflicts and embarrassments, here are some easy possible ways to reveal those past secrets. Read on..

Make it quick

The sooner is the better. If you have decided to reveal your past then it’s a bad idea to delay. If you hold up your guts and thoughts then you are probably making a mistake. This might create confusion in your relationship and could make it worse. Try to reveal in the initial stage of your relationship or as quick as possible.

Suitable time

Find out the most suitable moment to speak to your spouse. The suitable time to interact is when he/she is in a good mood, not disturbed and not occupied by any other issue. Timing plays a great role in visualizing and analyzing serious issues and matters as bad mood could worsen the expected response.

Be open and straight

Now if you have decided then better be totally frank and straight to the point. Try to highlight your reasons and concern about the present relationship. Make them feel that your past has nothing to do with your present as you want to make a new fresh start.

Avoid details

No spouse could digest the every ugly detail of your past when it is related to some physical and sexual relationships. So better unveil your secrets in a summary and avoid the details. There’s nothing bad about hiding every single detail as you want only the betterment of your present relationship.

Never compare

If you disclosing every secret of your past make sure your spouse never gets jealous or compared at any point. Because comparison creates insecurities and later serious brawls. No matter how hard you try, your past ugly track record will be highlighted in every single fight you both will have.

Take care of feelings

Never hurt your spouse’s feelings. Try to reveal it all politely and calmly. Don’t compare and feel bad about losing the one or missing the memories as this might make your spouse feel that you are still attached with your past and you have a soft corner for them.

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Apologize

Never feel bad or low about apologizing. Feel free and brave to make an apology. This will create a thought in your partner’s mind that you are sorry for everything and want him/her in your life.

Wipe out all

The most essential thing to do after revealing all secrets about your past to your beloved partner is wiping out every memory, every secret, every sign of your past from your mind and your devices. Assure him that after revealing the truth of your past you want to get rid of it and make a new start with your spouse. And request your partner to never ever raise any further doubt or questions about your past as you want it all wiped out from your life.