Prospective Questions For Every Bride & Groom Before Arranged Marriage

This post was last updated on July 29th, 2023

Prospective Questions For Every Bride Before Marriage

I usually wonder, how people decide for marriage just meeting a girl or a guy for once and asking some basic introductive questions? I don’t think that getting some basic knowledge about hobbies, qualification, job security, annual income and life goals would be ample to give a thumbs up for getting married. However, in India 69 percent of marriages are arranged till yet and the most amazing thing is India has the lowest divorce rate that is 10% only. Well, I don’t how does all these marriages work. But, according to me and today’s young mass, even if you are getting into an arranged marriage you should ask at least 15 to 20 questions to your would-be spouse. And for girls, please don’t feel coy and hesitant to ask your prospective questions as it’s your one and only chance to know your would-be spouse much better, so that it could be easier for you to decide he is the one or not. I have made a list of some questions that could be asked to any bride or groom on their first official meeting. So, here we go…

  1. Are you ready for marriage? It’s better to confirm, if he or she really wants to get married or they are just being pressurized.
  2. Why do you want to get married? Reasons for getting married, is it to make their family happy or just to carry on the arrange marriage custom or he or she really wants to get settled.
  3. How do you describe yourself? A short note on their nature, opinions, views and hobbies.
  4. Do you smoke or drink? You should ask expecting a honest answer, but I doubt if any guy answers it honestly ever.
  5. What are you looking for in your future spouse? Criteria and specification of future spouse.
  6. Are you vegetarian or non-vegetarian? Food habits are essential to know about.
  7. What are your likes and dislikes? What they love, their best things, worst things and all stuff.
  8. Do you think you have got the qualities of being a perfect spouse? Their opinion on their capability for getting married.
  9. How you act when you get upset? Behaviour when something bothers them.
  10. Are you planning to have kids soon after marriage? How many kids, or just one kid and when.
  11. What are your views on sharing household work? Opinions about helping in household work.
  12. What are your future career plans or job plans? Any specific goals or objective about job and career.
  13. Are you looking for a house wife or working girl? Question for guys, as most guys prefer both.
  14. Would you like to have pets ever? A reservation for getting a pug!
  15. Do you have any allergies? Medical concerns and eating habits are essential to know.
  16. Are you short temper by nature or a calm person? If they get angry more often or have got a cool personality.
  17. If yes, what makes you angry? Precaution to never mess with.
  18. What are your strengths and your weaknesses? Knowing a person deeply what makes them strong and what makes them weak.
  19. How do you spend your holidays? Funny and adventurous or boredom.
  20. Do you save money or spend what you earn? Savings is very essential to raise a perfect family.
  21. What kind of person has the influence on you? Persons who influence them most, like idols.
  22. Do you want your future spouse to change for you? Yes, ask it if you ever need to change for your spouse.
  23. Are you a shopaholic? If he or she loves shopping and spending lots of money.
  24. What kind of education do you want for your future kids? Concern about kids, their education, their career and all.
  25. Do you want to have joint accounts or separate or both? This is a tricky one, doesn’t matters really if it’s joint or separate but to know what kind of person he or she is when it comes to money.
  26. What time do you wake up in the morning? For a healthy lifestyle one should wake up early in the morning.
  27. What do you value most in a relationship? Is it understanding, love, trust, fun or all of them.
  28. How could a marriage be successful according to you? What kind of efforts can make a marriage successful or factors that could make a marriage happier and successful one.
  29. If you would say yes to me, what are the reasons? The reasons behind choosing you as his/her future spouse, what qualities in you attracted him/her.
  30. Do you have any questions for me? A courtesy to ask, so that he/she should be given equal opportunity to ask questions.

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Guys no need to feel sceptical and nervous while you interact with your would-be counterpart. As the concept of arrange marriages have changed a lot over last decades. Today, you are given the chance to meet and interact to know each other better and to decide on the basis of your conversation. I am not saying that asking mere 30 to 40 questions could help you to know a person perfectly. But if you are provided with a marriage interview then make a good use of it. Be gentle, polite and straight whatever you ask or talk. Marriage is a big step and a big phase of one’s life so clear all your doubts, choose wisely and live happily.

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