Ways to Accept Everyday Criticism Generously

It doesn’t matters if the criticisms are constructive or destructive as we are always ready to defend ourselves from being criticised. Criticism is the most hated thing among all people who face it in their work life, social life or personal life.  Criticisms are usually hurtful and demoralizing which makes us feel bad, low, less, irritated and annoyed. It’s a normal human tendency of taking criticism negatively and hating that person (the criticizer) for that exact time period or forever. But, to make this scenario little bit relaxing and non-hurting we need to act wisely, smartly and positively while being criticised. Let’s get into it in more details how to accept it nicely.

Be calm

It’s not that easy for people who really hate critics, but trying consistently can make you better at it. While you confront the situation of criticism try to make your mind more calm. Listen to the critic lines but don’t react all of a sudden. Reacting faster can make your anger and frustration out of control, hence you will not be able to accept it wisely. Transform your frustrated and defensive replies into wise and smart responds, save it in your mind’s draft folder. Keep taking deep breaths and maintain a generous smile on your face.

Cool down your mind

Analyze each and every critic lines said by the criticizer and absorb it properly. Don’t let your anger and your frustration climb on you. Before replying anything, make sure your mind is ultra cool to handle the situation nicely and effortlessly.

Respond, don’t react

Yes, reacting and responding are both different things. Responding to the criticism could be quite cool, smart and graceful. Perfect response could clear the air against you and making it meaningful and useful. However, reacting could be full of anger in a wrong mood and voice with a defending objective which could be directionless.

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Ask questions

Asking questions looks like you’re being cooperative but the reason behind questioning is making your criticizer confused and deprived of strong points. For example, if someone says, “You never could be a great writer, because you don’t have that out of box imagination.” Asking why about your inability of thinking out of box will impel them to think about the reasons and you could later clarify it. Asking questions in some situations even come up with no replies and confusion which makes the criticizer’s point totally useless and pointless.

Be positive

I guess, being positive can solve 80% of your life issues and troubles. Be positive about the criticism. Try to find positivity and good reflections from it. Positivity could make you stronger and capable of rising above the critic attacks. Well, let me tell you, when people criticize you or talk against you, believe that you are developing and rising in the right direction of your life.

Take it as an improvement tip

Yeah, accept the criticisms all gracefully and make a better use of it. Take it as improvement tip for yourself to be more capable and experienced. However, don’t just blindly accept every critic attack, analyse every line and find any useful out of it. If you believe, some should be ignored then avoid it and some are really useful for you, utilize it.

Be thankful

Always thank your criticizer for the critic attacks, no matter how harsh they are. This will make you great and create a confused anger and discontent in the mind of criticizer. Thanking for criticism will make you a better person or you can say a wise person.

Consider the source of criticism

If it’s a random person, criticizing you when you are in a travel, be generous and accept it. However, it totally depends on you how to accept externally and avoid criticism internally. That is what taking it from your ears but not letting that reach to your mind. If you are being criticized by your office staffs, then think that he/she might have a bad day or might be in some tension hence behaving little off track. If it’s from your family or any loved one then there are 80% chances that those lines are for your betterment and improvement.

Make the air clear with a nice cute smile

Think twice before you speak. Choose your words wisely but words should be effective not harsh. Derive some logic and practical points to prove yourself right rather proving your criticizer wrong, with a kind and generous smile. Avoid initiating lines with “I am”, “I know”, “I can” rather use “I think”, “according to my opinion”, “I should”.

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Speak less and listen more

I have confronted many criticisms and the most important thing that I have ever analyzed was people always try to attack your weakest point by bringing you into their level and hence they torture, criticise and insult you badly. Because when you come to their level, you will run out of words, logic reasoning and your strong points. So, always speak less so that the criticisers will never get any idea of your weakest point. Listening them could make you more strong and hence you could choose your effective words to make the air clear.