How to Know Whether you’re Still in Love with Your Ex Girlfriend
Feelings are pretty tricky things. Sometimes it’s hard to wake them up, but when we don’t want to have them, they appear and become very strong. That is sometimes a problem after the breakup. You just got out of a relationship that went into a routine, and you broke up by mutual agreement.
Simply, you were bored and thought that the emotion was gone. Both of you decided to start a new life, probably with someone else. But after a while, you start to have doubts about ending your relationship. Maybe your feelings have not gone yet, and you might want your ex back. Below, find certain signs you are not indifferent to your ex-girlfriend, as well as advice on what to do about it.
Friends with Benefits
Being single is the best way to overcome love failure. However, if you are trying to treat your emotional pain by having sex with your ex-girlfriend, this is by no means good. One night stands have their advantages, but when you’re still vulnerable after breaking the relationship, it’s better to be alone for a while.
However, if sex is just an excuse to see your ex again, you can be sure you still have some feelings for each other. In a way, it’s your safe zone. By seeing her, you avoid the potential failures and disappointments of new girls.
When and why you should have one night stand, read on the following link:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/one-night-stands-8-reason_b_1636346.
If you are thinking of getting her back, this is not the way to go. Try to make a distance and build a different kind of relationship. Try to be friends, but with no benefits. Discuss everything but your relationship, feelings, and breakup. See how things are going and if you can hope for reconciliation.
You Check on Her
As soon as you want to know what is going on in your ex’s life when you are not in it, it is quite clear that you are not indifferent. If you don’t have feelings for her, you wouldn’t care if she found a new boyfriend, where she went out last night, whom she was on vacation with, and so on. You wonder if she is happy, whether she is suffering, or is indifferent to everything that has happened.
Modern technologies provide many things for us to see. If you still have your ex-girlfriend on a friend list, you will easily find all this information. If you are checking her social media profiles, hoping that some of her posts have something to do with you, you probably should quit the Internet for a while.
Real Life Stalking
If you went one step further and turned to stalk a girl in real life, we have to admit, it’s creepy. If you are visiting the area where she lives or you are ‘accidentally’ appearing in places where she goes, consider whether this is normal behavior.
There is a theory that people are unusually attracted when someone ignores them. That is precisely the behavior after most breakups which reverse psychology (about which you can find more information here) describes as a successful method to get your ex back. This way, you will surely have more chances of reconciliation than when she sees you everywhere.
Still Have Her Stuff
Gifts, shared photos, and even some of her belongings are still in your apartment. You didn’t move or throw them away because you don’t want to accept the fact that your sweetheart is no longer there. It is more than a clear sign that your feelings have not faded.
And there is another extreme. If you insist the girl come for her stuff, you are looking for reasons to see her again, talk to her, or try to restore something that is over. Don’t make a drama out of this – even if you have feelings for your ex, ask her if she wants her things back or not.
After the breakup, you shouldn’t see each other for a while; try to be unavailable, and let her miss you. Don’t look up for lame excuses to see her or keep in touch. You have way better ways to get her back. Play safe and try to revive her feelings for you.
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